Glowing fishing

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We went fishing! Okay, okay, not real fishing… but it was real to Maddy. Bath time is a huge battle ground in our house. Not just a I-don’t-really-like-baths kind of thing, an epic, anxiety producing, meltdown causing, battle ground.

It causes enough anxiety, that sometimes the first thing Maddy says when she wakes up is “No bath,” even though it’s 12 hours (or more) from her bath time. She randomly talks about not having a bath during the day, sometimes perseverating on it for a half hour or so. It’s gotten to the point that Maddy is now afraid of Eric and I showering – and randomly says, “No mommy shower. No daddy shower.” She regularly cries now when one of us showers.

We know it’s anxiety. We’re working with our behavioural team, and a mental health counsellor who specializes in little ones to work through it. But, man, it’s tough. It’s tough seeing how anxiety provoking certain (and seemingly simple) things can be. Wide-eyed, terrified looks, panicked vocalizations, and an increased heart rate, that can ultimately lead to a completely rigid body and meltdown. Heartbreaking.

Hair washing seems to be one of the big causes of these issues. As a result, we really only wash Maddy’s hair once a week (unless we really need to because of a syrup incident, or something similar). We’ve tried putting a wash cloth on her back so her wet hair doesn’t touch her back…. not successful. We’ve worked really hard on looking up while we rinse her hair (a picture on the shower ceiling is quite useful)… not successful. We are really at a loss at what we can do to make the actual experience better.

So… if we can’t make hair washing feel better… why not make the bath tub more fun? It can’t hurt! A week or so ago we picked up a bag full of goodies to make bath time fun and special. Some of the things we got are oversized glasses that Eric and I will only wear during bath time. We bought special balls, balloons, bubbles, and fun purple goggles to see if Maddy likes them on. I’ve already started a new list of things to get: a baby we can wash in the tub together, and crayons she can colour on the walls with.

This week, we started with a magnetic fishing set, and glow sticks. The first night we started with the fishing set only. After we fished for a while, Maddy suggested that we wash the fish with soap. She soon realized it would be much easier to do if she got in the tub. She insisted she wanted to stand, but again, realized on her own if she sat down it would be easiest. Eventually it turned into a game of, “Can you wash your feet? Can you wash your elbow?” Maddy even asked me to wash her back for her! It was a huge success… until we washed her hair. I was tempted to skip it, but we had just come back from a weekend of camping, and it had been awhile. Mama fail.

Given the mama fail above, Maddy was no longer interested in fishing. I amped it up. I added glow sticks to the water and turned off the lights. I promised Maddy that there was no bath tonight, just playing, and she tentatively joined in.

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By the end of our fishing experience, I was sitting on the edge with my feet in, and Maddy was standing in the water. This time I didn’t ruin the experience with a hair washing.


Honestly, I’m not sure who will have the most fun during Maddy’s bath time now 😉

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One response »

  1. Those are great ideas! My boy went through a time that he hated the water as well but got through it pretty quick, thankfully. I have a harder time getting him out of the water now!

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